Relationships by Stacey Stevens

Okay, girls, admit it – there’s some part of you that still thinks it’s kinda cool when a guy opens a door for you, or lets you go first simply because you’re a girl. I know, I know, how terribly anti-feminist of me – this is the 21st century, after all. But, even if we don’t want to admit it, relationships haven’t made it all the way to our so-called enlightened age. Some part of you still goes weak at the knees at the first sight of a cute guy, or wants to spend endless hours imagining what it would be like for him to kiss you. Don’t be embarrassed, it’s not like they’re aren’t thinking the exact same thing about us. Duh, obviously – how else do you expect the human race to continue for the next ten centuries?

See, there’s this really cute boy at our school that my sister and I are both into. His name is Christopher. And, yeah, he’s been the source of many a sisterly argument in our house, especially that one time when he told me he’d kissed her – or she’d kissed him, whatever. Turned out to be someone else entirely, but that’s a whole other story. Anyways, as I was saying, even in the 21st century some of them still expect you to go buttery at the knees at the mere sight of them… and the embarrassing thing is that you do. The hard part is not letting them know that. Relationships are complicated at the best of times, without one of you accidentally letting slip that you have some serious weakness for the other.

And then, of course, there’s the really complicated part when you get into a proper relationship, and the whole thing becomes common knowledge. How do you stand tough in a 21st century when the entire damn planet knows you’re a delicate flower? Simple, you pretend not to be. You play the game, you follow the script. If enough people fall for it, you’re home free; if not, well…

The fact is, Feminism has spent decades convincing us that the whole “weaker sex” thing is complete and utter crap. And maybe it is, but then again, maybe it’s not. The fact is, both sexes have a certain weakness for the other, that’s just the way it is. We aren’t weaker than them, and they aren’t stronger than us; we want them, and they want us. They ARE our weakness, but guess what, girls? We’re their weakness, too.

On the other hand, giving yourself over completely to someone without truly understanding who they are is not only foolish, it’s stupid. The important thing is to know the difference between the guy who loves and respects you, and the guy who just wants you for your… money. So, instead of playing the bitch just cause he opened the door for you or let you take the first turn, try paying attention to him and his motives. Instead of assuming he thinks you’re weak, or that he’s trying to pick you up, try discovering what he really wants. It is possible he just respects you for who you are, and is simply using his manners.


Stacey xx